Living Differently. What Can We Do?

In 2026 we are still “Living Differently”, a phrase I coined over a decade ago, applying it to our travel lifestyle. Today we live differently, differently. We are semi off-grid and remote. None of us has a regular full time job, and we live within our means, comfortably, still prioritising having the money to travel. I’m updating the original “Living Differently” post today to reflect both ways of opting out of the 3D, the 9-5, the matrix, or the life trap.

We are conditioned by school and “normal” society to be the version of normal that our higher ups want us to be. Compliant, obedient, accepting of working from youth to old age, paying taxes and barely keeping our heads above water while we spend as much as possible on consumer goods. That’s getting worse too, we will own nothing and be happy, apparently, and we’re seeing this with a subscription here, a subscription there, bans on cash, items that aren’t fixable and cars that can’t be maintained.

We opted out of a lot of that a long time ago, by accident. Just a gut feeling. I refused to birth in a hospital, refused the school system, and found a way to not hand my kids over to strangers. It wasn’t a planned escape from the 3D, it was just how I felt at that time.

I was at a conference in Eastbourne UK recently. I haven’t written about it yet, but I will. The slide below was from one of the presentations, and it spoke to me. What do you think? It was a presentation by a female ritual abuse survivor, you can find her here.

The slide came up towards the end of her presentation. The bullet points were exactly what we’ve done and are doing. All except the last one, I don’t know what shadow work is and I don’t think I have trauma to heal, so I’ve not looked into that yet. I probably will. I have a good friend in therapy for PTSD and one training as a therapist. I talk to them about these experiences. It’s all to do with frequency, which is extremely interesting. Frequency and vibration are my jam.

We grow a lot of our food, we avoid supermarkets and shop, in cash, at our local market. We have no subscriptions, even Netflix is gone, we opted out of social media, I avoid doctors as much as possible and swear by naturopaths. Most importantly for my kids, I kept them away from the indoctrination as much as I could.

Unfortunately, through friends and work mates some of the mainstream narative has crept into their awareness. But I’m still trying my best to educate them. It gets hard, they think Mum is nuts at least half of the time, but usually whatever conspiracy or new science I tell them about becomes semi-mainstream within a few months.

Points 5 and 6, spreading the word and creating community. That’s what I’ve been doing on this website for the last 15 years. I’ve had enormous reach back in the day. Today I’ll be lucky to get this post to 50 people. But, I try.

We are lucky to live in a rural community where most people have the same values around spending locally, supporting our growers and swapping produce with neighbours. I think that will only become stronger in coming years. It will become essential.

Surveillance and digital ID are something I’d rather avoid. It is possible to skip the biometric scanners at airports, but I haven’t tried as yet. If the day comes when it all becomes too invasive, I’ll gladly throw my phone and Starlink box in the lake and go back to the 1980s.

Living the way we do is not convenient. I spend a lot of long hours gardening, preserving, cooking and tending animals. It’s not convenient, but I’ll take it over the ready meals and instant foods that I used to eat. We travelled for years eating whatever was available. In the end it made me unwell. hat’s one of the negatives of travel that most people don’t think about.

We still do it when we travel, but we try to make up for it at home.

How do we keep our living expenses low? By cooking, growing food, shopping smart, preserving, having solar and our own water supply and by not buying “stuff”. We fix, tinker, and create from what we have, rather than buying new.

We swapped the big house that I talked about below for a tiny old farm house in need of much renovation. It really is tiny. But I think I said in a post a long time ago that I prefer a small house over a large one for the greater family connection. It’s also cheaper to clean, heat, cool and decorate.

Instead of the expensive new kitchen that we needed, we made do with paint and homelyness. I dropped the need to have everything “fancy”.

We are a 4 income family, multigenerational living still works well for us. I love having my kids at home and never encouraged them to enter tertiary and debt, necessitating work to make the repayments.

4 amazing years of seeing the world, somewhere between 35 and 50+ countries each, an amazing education for the kids and a new career for me. More family time, more fun, less work. But to some it must look crazy. How can we prefer backpacks to bedrooms, co-working spaces to steady jobs and challenging destinations to comfort? I know that most of you won’t want to do it our way, you’re more interested in shorter family travel breaks, we’ll talk about all that in coming posts, but first let me try to explain why we do what we do, and, to an extent, how.

We used to own a four bedroom detached home with pool and double garage set in tropical gardens producing fruit year-round. In the garage there was an almost new 4 wheel drive and a collection of lavish camping gear. The house had air conditioning and a bed for everyone plus spares. We had lots of books, DVDs, CDs, a flat screen TV and a gaming console. I had a walk-in wardrobe and an en suite bathroom, the second bathroom had a bath big enough for a family and a double shower. We lived within moments of a tropical beach on the Coral Sea. We had everything we could possibly need and if we wanted something we generally bought it. My husband had a prestigious job at one of the best 5 star hotels in town. We had family-of-head-chef hotel perks in spades. And yet we left to live out of backpacks. Why?

ARE WE INSANE???

We’re different, yes, we didn’t fit with that lifestyle, but I think we were crazy to buy all that stuff in the first place and I wish we’d had the inspiration to live differently, with fewer needs and possessions years earlier than we did. While others bought boats and threw dinner parties I was dreaming of the freedom of riding the trains in South East Asia or no fixed duration trekking in the Himalayas. I needed to roam. I could see that my children needed a more varied environment in which to learn, so our plan was born.

OK, I lied. We still own the above home, although it’s about to be sold, just about everything in it has gone, we swapped our “stuff” for cash to fund our dreams in year 1. We have never missed house or possessions since the day we walked out the door. Particularly not the camping gear!

It’s really liberating. It’s freedom.

Crazy, maybe, but it’s a good crazy. We’re having a lot of fun with this new lifestyle, ever changing view and fewer material needs.

See what’s in our backpacks in this post.

How More Stuff = More Stress

The big house was lovely, nothing wrong with it at all, but possessions, property and gardens can be a chain around your neck. More space means more cleaning and buying more furniture and possessions to equip or fill that space. More space also needs heating or cooling. More garden brings more work and more tools and equipment, you’re never happy, always wanting and buying more plants, changing that layout, adding a new feature. More possessions bring more stress as they break, get damaged and get dirty, you then buy more furniture to store those possessions. It’s a never ending circle of consumption and spending.

All of the above give you less free time and less free money as we become physical and financial slaves to our homes.

How Earning Less = Living More

Now, with just our packs our lives are all-round lighter. We need to earn less to travel than we did to stay home, that basic fact gives us freedom to earn in more creative, less conventional ways on a timetable that suits our needs and our family time.

See how we make a living while we travel here.

Because we work less to maintain both home and income we have more free time to travel and be a family. Because we own only what we can carry we are never tempted to buy things we don’t need.

Back in 2012 when we sold all our possessions and walked out of that home, some people thought we were “throwing it all away.” We weren’t, we were gaining freedom.

Do we wish we still had all that space? No, not really, occasionally, if we need a bit more space we can rent a bigger apartment or stay in a more expensive hotel, but on the whole all we do in hotel rooms is sleep, we’re out all day and have no need of a larger home base. We certainly don’t miss the bills that come with running a large home nor the headaches. When you mostly live in hotels so much is taken care of for you, from laundering bed linen to cooking to internet connections, it’s wonderful and gives us all more time to do the things we enjoy.

We still buy things for the kids, of course we do, they have mountains of Lego, books, toys and their favourite bows and arrows. Their possessions stay at home bases these days, Romania or London. In the first 2 years we carried everything with us, right down to Harry Potter wands, 14 cuddly toys and Sonic Screwdrivers. If I want to treat myself it has to be something practical like a new camera or phone, maybe a small treat like a favourite shampoo bar, you appreciate treats more when you don’t take them for granted. I don’t care about clothes, neither does Chef and fancy or expensive clothes don’t impress me, sorry, they just need to do the job and earn their pack-space. We can wear our favourite clothes every day because that is all we own, when items wear out we replace them. Can you imagine how much money that saves?

Why Settle With One Reality When You Can Try them All?

I like cities, I love mountains, I enjoy walks in the woods and pavement cafes. I need to be near water sometimes, I enjoy museums, theme parks, street food and fine dining. I like temples, mosques cathedrals and palaces. It is possible to have all of that in one lifetime.

We’ve done it, we’ve lived it, for 4+ years now and we’re absolutely certain that owning less is more. A lot more, as we explore the world trying everything and everywhere on offer, a new experience every week. We are most certainly living more, on less. Are you tempted? How can we help you on your journey?

It doesn’t have to be a physical journey as ours is, if you think differently, live differently and consume less, we can all buy ourselves more freedom.

Freedom, that’s what Living Differently is all about. 

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